The Great Sex Rescue

The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky

Sheila Wray Gregoire’s ministry, Bare Marriage, has been very helpful to me in recovering from some of the messages I learned growing up in conservative evangelical circles.  I was a teenager in the 1980s, so I was a bit early for the full-fledged purity culture movement of the 1990s, but I still heard many harmful teachings about sex and marriage during my dating years and my first marriage.

Note: This book is aimed at straight married people who have received messages from the church or from Christian resources that have caused harm to their marriage. It does not get into sex outside of marriage or LGBT relationships. Despite that, I believe it is a very helpful resource for the intended audience.

There is a lot of research that went into the writing of this book, and it shows. The authors provide a lot of statistics from the large survey that they did as well as discuss their reviews of academic research on evangelicalism and sexuality as well as bestselling Christian sex and marriage books. They also provide anecdotes from their own lives and from (primarily) women who wrote in with their stories.

I only wish this book had been around twenty years earlier. It could have made a big difference for me.